Escape Stuck Mode 2

Ever have one of those days where you think, “wow it’s my day off!” and it evaporated? I have had quite a few of these in the past couple of years. I absolutely love my work, but the days I’m not working, I try to play catch up. I write a to do list, check the news, look at Facebook, Grab some java, and wait…. is it 5:00 p.m. already?! NO WAY!!! It’s okay I still have time. So I decide to order dinner delivered to save time (it’s my day off no cooking needed!) and take a look at the clock again. Somehow it got to be 9:55 p.m. Nothing has been completed. I look at my to to list again. Nothing has been done?!! Wow, I feel like a waste of space. Put on PJs, and hope tomorrow is a more productive day.

I hope I’m not alone in this time-warp. I know I’m not! I wonder how some friends seem to get so VERY much done? I go back in time to days where I believe I was so much more productive. Back then, I could run five miles, went to school full-time, stayed on the Dean’s List, ran a business working 60 hours a week! Who is this person stuck in quick sand?!!! Not that hyper productive girl that only lives in my faulty memory.

I get so many clients calling with the same issue or I wouldn’t bother sharing this. Maybe you can relate, and if not you are a snowflake and “have it together”?

It’s taken a very long time for me to understand this. Take a deep breath as you read these next words, and If you can, say them out loud and let’s this affirm together. Ready? Here it is: Not-one -human-being-alive-has-it-all-together, and they never will.

If they say they do, rest easy they are lying, delusional or hiding the truth. We all have areas that are wonderful about us, even close to perfection, but life is messy. I no longer fool myself believing anyone has every aspect of their lives organized and in the best place possible, unless they are name is “Sophia” and work for Hanson Robotics. (Sophia is a robot but she’s bald-so not even she has it together, nothing against bald, but I’m sure if Sophia could choose…)

So, here are the questions I ask myself when, “stuck mode” strikes:

1. Have I recently laughed so hard that I about wet my pants?
2. Am having unrealistic expectations about something in my life?
3. Is there a person in my life taking up too much energy?
4. Am I trying to accomplish more than is humanly possible?
5. Am I eating the right foods and getting enough exercise?
6. Am I healthy enough to finish my to-do list?Am I sleeping enough or too much?
7. Am I open to change or in a “comfort zone”?

Here are my personal solutions:

I know I’m a goof and the goof needs to laugh, have fun and let loose from time to time. All work and no play makes goof stuck, sick, lazy, and dumb.

Expectations can do the same thing. I love to believe…. Oh how I miss Santa, the tooth fairy, and that bunny that brings chocolate! I love to believe the impossible. It’s so much more fun than reality. Somewhere in my head I believe I can cook an eight course meal for a group of twelve, and have my home ready for a Better Homes and Gardens photo shoot all the day before friends come for dinner. Big Duh. (If a magazine photographer shows up I’m in huge trouble).

Oh expectations are fun! Did I really think I could console a sobbing friend for two hours, walk her dog, do her grocery shopping, and book her a flight all while she was working making a living, and get my own work done?! Ha dreamer! Dump the vamp already! Make room for kind friends who care.

I believe in mythological creatures on TV, and in movies as I set aside all disbelief, for the time allotted to view said episode, however, in real life nobody is able to jump buildings or defeat any laws of physics except in our dreams.   Shucks.

The laws of the universe also dictate that if I’m running on empty, the car is not going to have any power.  Also, a diet of only cookies and coffee isn’t going to sustain my body or give me any energy. It’s going to make me sick. My to do list is not getting done if I treat myself that way. -Damn-

There are great steps to take to heal, to change and grow.

Getting out of my “comfort zone” is an entirely new list of things to do, but it’s rewarding, brings back passion, and is the equivalent of deleting months worth of stuck in the muck days!

Stay tuned for the next entries as I cannot wait to share the healing, the fun, and passion that comes next!

If you enjoyed this, pretty please like, share, and comment! Please share how you get yourself unstuck when it happens! I need so many more suggestions! Blessings and Love, Katie