Written my dear friend Andrew Roberts, an excellent medium from the UK, whom recently lost his beloved father from this earth. May you and Sarah dance together always!
Okay, so yes. I agree with Elizabeth Kublar-Ross. There are many steps to getting through the mourning process. This is just what has personally helped me cope with loss, sadness, and anger. All those freaky emotions we GET to have just being alive. I hope by sharing this, maybe it may help just one person.
First, I have to quickly touch on the fact that we are mind, body, and spirit. The physical part of us is just like anything else on this planet: air, fire, water, earth. The highest part of us, spirit, doesn’t mourn, doesn’t get depressed, and isn’t sad. It’s the earth part. That’s an entirely different post. When dealing with sadness or anger, it’s because of some thing. Something that has occurred on this planet; a loss or an expectation that we have had that didn’t go our way. Because of this, it’s the physical part of us that needs tending to, the mind and body.
We need to raise up our vibe or mojo to be closer to the higher part of us our spirit, and become balanced with the earth, which (too much = depression; too little = not grounded) We need to balance the elements within.
A little side-note: When we are not grounded, we can become very spacey and will have a hard time manifesting our desires. When we are too grounded, we can become depressed.
Most of us instinctually know that anger is that of fire. And I was reminded yesterday, that sadness is that of water. We become sad, and the water-works start or exceptionally happy and we cry as well.
Like many of us I can skip right to pissed-off, and it is easy for me to go right to fire, so it’s easy for me to forget that some emotions are of another element.
Okay, my process:
1) Grab some tunes. I feel that music is the human representation of the four elements. Music brings back memories not just in the mind, but in the body. Make a playlist of your favorites or of just a particular time in your life that you wish to work through emotionally.
2) Move your body however you can, to the music. Movement allows your body to release. I usually clean and dance around the house with my dogs as they bark at me and join in. No, I will not video this, it’s sacred, and because well that leads me to number three.
3) Allow the memories, the sadness, anger, and loss to flow over you as you move. Feel everything. Don’t bury any pain. The purpose of this is to allow the fire within to burn itself out; and the water to flow out of you. Cry like a babbling two-year old that mommy won’t buy the toy for. Keep moving, jump cry, scream, just let it out! It may take a few times of doing this but it’s a process. You will become more balanced with this exercise, if not at least you’ll be more fit and maybe have a cleaner house.
Blog Street Cred goes to:
My fabulous pal Blair, whom caught me mid-stream so to speak in self-healing this week, as I attempted to explain this process a bit, and to YouTube blogger Nyishar, whom by watching helped me articulate the elements with his latest vlog. Such a synchronicity COOL!
Blessings
💜🦄💜-katie
The tears don’t flow so much anymore. Unfortunately, I’m stuck in grief, depression, and anxiety 26 months after the death of my life partner. Wondering if a session with a good medium would help me through this incredibly difficult journey.
I have discussed this with a few different psychologists, and have heard with a good connection, it can save years of therapy. Just knowing that they are a part of your life still in a different form is helpful. You know I’m happy to help you in anyway I can! Sending prayers upward for you Elizabeth!!!! love & hugs!!!!